One method of self care I find to be especially effective is meditation. For me, meditiaton is the experience of cherishing experience – not naming it, trying to change it, or judging it. Meditiaton for me is the experience of letting go and simply being. The best explanation I’ve ever heard for the experience of meditation was one I got from a Bodhisattva* I met on an Amtrak train a few years ago. He described meditation as looking out the window of the train, seeing a tree and experiencing everything about the experience of tree – besides naming it. One the most significant benefits of meditating I experience is an increase in the experience of my body. When I am stressed, my awareness of my body deceases; I get sick more often, I might forget to eat, and sometimes I even walk into doorjambs. Meditation brings me back into my body and puts me back in touch with my skin.
In an effort to help you be able to experience the benefits of meditation, I encourage you to do one thing today intentionally. For instance, take a raisin. Look at your raisin, identify the wrinkles, dents, colors, shades in the skin of your raisin. When you feel like you have memorized your raisin, put it into your mouth. Run your tongue over the skin of your raisin. How does your raisin feel? When you have experienced the feel of your raisin, bite into it. Imagine you have never tasted a raisin before. What is its’ texture? Taste? Put your focus on the raisin. Experience the raisin.
Another method I use more regularly is guided meditation. Here a video of a guided meditation. I encourage you to give it a try.