After a romantic break up, individuals may experience a sense of fragility and inconsistency in their own self-concept.  In the midst of that fragility, individuals usually re-organize their self-concept into something different and possibly new.  That new may include narratives of both resiliency and victimhood.  It seems to me that the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” may apply here.  How do you think that new whole is determined?

SAGE Publications (2010, March 8). How a romantic breakup affects self-concept. ScienceDaily. Retrieved March 8, 2010, from­ /releases/2010/03/100308132139.htm