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I finished my first semester at UW – Stout with flying colors.  Over the course of the semester I learned a ton of things, notably, the differences between the classic family theories (Structural, Bowenian, Strategic, ect), that due to the fact that we live in a pervasively racist society, everyone really is a racist, and at the end of the day I want to be a female version of Carl Whitaker.  (Carl Whitaker, for those of you who don’t know, was a sort of grouchy old man who believed that everyone was crazy and to effectively create change in families, they must have the motivation within themselves to do it.  He was very confrontational and often was accused of “not liking his clients.”  He agreed with his accusers.)  In short, I am taking on the socially constructed identity of a marriage and family therapist and liking it.

One thing that I did not like very much over the course of the semester was working full-time while doing school full-time.  Although I was able to successfully do both of those things, I was not able to do things like have free time or invest in friendships.  Both free time and friendships are important to me and because of that, I am cutting my hours at CRTC to part-time.  I am looking forward to having time to be more than a great student and employee.  At the beginning of February, I will be in the Part Time Overnight position.  Although the sleep schedule will take some adjusting, I think that it will be worth it, especially because I will be able to use some down time during the overnight to do homework.  I am also hoping to have some more time to keep this blog maintained.

Over the course of Holiday break, I have been spending time with family, playing the Sims, and reading “fun” books.  (It should be noted that “fun” is in quotes because I decided to see what all of the Twilight fuss was about.  It is as bad as you’ve heard.)  One of the things I want to try in the Sims is make a polygamist relationship and a polyamourous relationship.  I want try this: 1) to see if I even can with the way the game is coded and 2) to see how harmonious I can make both of those types of relationships work within the game.  The problem I run into with running social experiments on the Sims is that I start to feel attached to my avatars – I don’t want them to suffer.  So when they start fighting with each other and sobbing into their hands (you Sims players know what I am talking about), I fold like a cheap suit and start giving them what they want. Does anyone else experience this?  With a simulation game (one without a win point), do you find yourself feeling bad for your avatars?  Assuming that I don’t just have an excessively sensitive heart, I wonder if people who struggle with empathy would empathize with their avatars in a game like the Sims.  Would someone who is dealing with Antisocial Personality Disorder or Reactive Attachment Disorder feel bad for or attach to their Sim?


As you may remember, I have been applying for graduate schools.  After some tough decision making, I have decided to attend The University of Wisconsin – Stout to get my M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy.  There will be 11 other students in my cohort, 97% of their graduates pass the liscenture exam on their first try, and it is the second oldest Marriage and Family Therapy program in the country.  I feel thankful to have gotten into such a prestigious program.

University of Wisconsin-Stout

This fall I am going to be taking:

  1. Theories of Family Processes
  2. Psychopathology
  3. Foundations of Couple and Family Therapy
  4. Couples and Sex Therapy
  5. Cultural Competence in Family Therapy

I am also planning on spending a lot of this summer reading up on research regarding family of origin involvement in residential placement.  As of right now, I have some interest in exploring those correlations for my Master’s thesis.

Thanks for checking in!  I’ll continue to keep you updated as grad school begins.

July 2020